The ceremony is the heart of the whole day. Everything else is a lovely addition to what a wedding is really all about – two people saying they love each other in front of everyone they love.
Tying the knot
We decided early on that we would like to make full use of the beautiful venue and have both our ceremony and reception there. The Barn is very versatile, so there are lots of areas where you can conduct your service. As we have a lot of guests, we have opted to get married in the main hall looking out over the views of Bennachie.
We also knew we wanted a Humanist ceremony. Neither of us is religious and having attended Humanist weddings before; we loved how personal the ceremonies were and how it was very much about the couple and their love story.
Finding the one
We did our research online and looked at reviews to shortlist celebrants in the area. After speaking to some friends and getting recommendations, one name seemed to keep popping up, Rachel Donald from the Humanist Association, Scotland.
We organised a meeting with her and knew instantly that she was the person we would like to marry us. She put us at ease and was so down to earth. It was so vital for us to find someone we clicked with. Luckily, she was available on our date, so we booked her there and then.
Order of service
Ten weeks before the wedding, we had another meeting with Rachel to go over the details and order of service for the day. She asked us about our relationship, and each other was easy to talk to, and the whole thing was very relaxed.
We have also decided to have some of our close family and friends do readings on the day. Tim and I are really into music, so choosing songs that were fitting for us was important. After many evenings of listening to songs, we found ones the ones that reflect us best.
There are lots of optional symbolic gestures you can add to the ceremony such as handfasting, the quaiche, wedding band warming, the unity candle, and oathing stones. This can make the ceremony more personal to you and add something different.
Finally, and most importantly, the vows that will make us husband and wife; we have created our vows based on some examples and research, so they are meaningful to us. I have no idea how I will not sob my way through them as I get choked every time I read them – I think I will need a bottle of Rescue Remedy before I get there!
In a few days, we will be getting married! I can't believe it has come around so quickly; it feels like yesterday that I was writing the first blog post. I will keep you updated with how it goes, but I have no doubt it will be the day of my dreams, marrying the man of my dreams.
The Future Mrs Jones x
- When looking for a celebrant, make sure you go by recommendations, but also organise a meeting so you can get to know the person. You want to ensure that you can be yourself around them, given they are conducting the most important element of the day.
- Choose vows that reflect the words you would use naturally, so you are more comfortable saying your vows at such an important and emotional time.
- Look into the different symbolic gestures and include things that are meaningful to you. Also, asking family members to do readings can make the ceremony more personal. The beauty of a Humanist ceremony is that you can personalise it to your taste; there are no rules so it can be really special to you both.